The Illusion of Perfectionism

Here’s how the dictionary defines “perfect”:


per·fect \ˈpər-fikt\
  • : having no mistakes or flaws

  • : completely correct or accurate

  • : having all the qualities you want in that kind of person, situation, etc.

There really should be a fourth definition, though, and it should say “impossible, unattainable, and unrealistic”.

Because “perfect” isn’t real. “Perfect” is an illusion.


So why strive for it?

Instead, strive to be the best version of yourself that you can be. Look at yourself in the mirror and name three things about your appearance that you like.


(I love this image, it makes me smile just like the little guy in the mirror)

Laugh until you cry and snort and end up no longer making any sound; instead just shaking with happiness and joy.56158-doctor-who-10-laughing-gif-d1ci.gif

Do your makeup, pick out a special outfit to wear, go get a haircut, your nails done, or something to make you feel extra special and beautiful.


(The holy grail itself.)

Spend some time cooking and preparing a meal. Decide to eat something that you really enjoy, and give yourself permission to fully do so. Go out to eat just because; treat yourself.

chocolate cake

Write down a list of things you’re grateful for. Start with general things, and then really go into detail. You’d be surprised at how quickly this puts you in a better mood.


Go outside and breathe  the fresh air. Listen to birds singing. Take a short walk. Literally stop to smell the roses (or any flower you feel particularly inclined to sniff). Spend some time in the sunshine.


Go see a friend. Spend time and make plans with your family and loved ones. Get in some cuddle time with your pets.

cute puppy.gif

(My heart is melting <3)

Compliment someone out of the blue. Say hello to someone as you pass them on the street. Wish a complete stranger a nice day. Smile.


(Hi there, Leo)

Pay it forward; do someone a random kindness. Donate to charity. Give your time to the less fortunate. Support a cause.


Remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes. Forgive yourself for something you erred on. Let something you’re holding on to pass. Live in the moment.


Just be. Be you, and know that that is more than enough.



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